It seems to be human nature to always want what we don’t have. Then if we’re fortunate to get what we want, we experience some level of satisfaction; however, we don’t stay satisfied for long. Soon afterward we’re craving a newer, bigger and better whatever. We constantly hunger and thirst for more, and we base our happiness on acquiring things. Consequently we are never happy.
My friends, this should not be. The “grass is greener” mentality is a fallacious mentality. We must be thankful for what we have while we have it, because what we have is a blessing even though we take it for granted. Anyone who has lost someone or something, only then to realize how important that person or possession was, can attest to this. We’re often so focused on pursuing our desires we consistently disregard the blessings we already have. We settle for people we don’t love and who don’t love us (when deep down in our hearts we know it’s not meant to be) and cling to them hoping to finally find happiness. We invest our time, money, and passion (yes I mean that kind of passion) into that other person, only to have wasted it all. When he or she cheats or leaves, when their lies and dark secrets come to light and everything we tried to build crumbles we suffer from the pain, frustration, and disappointment we never should have experienced in the first place. We are left broken, and some of us have children who are now in broken families as a result of these decisions.
Whatever happened to virtues like patience, loyalty, faithfulness, and honesty? Why is it so easy for people to lie and cheat on the ones they claim to love? Why commit to a relationship if you can’t be honest and remain faithful? And if you can, why constantly settle for someone who can’t? It’s a waste of time and a recipe for constant heartache.
There is a misconception that to be single means you’ll be lonely and unhappy until you’re in a relationship. Some ladies feel like they aren’t special or beautiful or valuable if they are single. To them having a man proves that they have worth. This logic is flawed! We are all special and valuable because God made us that way. Furthermore anything that doesn’t come from Him isn’t a blessing, so to force ourselves to settle for a man or a woman just to prevent being single is setting yourself up for failure. When God sets it up, it will work, and although it will take work to maintain it, He’ll be there to help you do it successfully. If you do it any other way you’re all on your own – which as I’m sure you’re aware guarantees failure.
Finally, just because you want to have a man, or woman, or a child or whatever, doesn’t mean that it was meant to be. Desire doesn’t guarantee possession. People long to hit the lottery because they think money will solve all their problems. But they fail to realize if they got millions of dollars they wouldn’t be able to handle it. They would overindulge in everything and wind up destroying their lives and the lives of many others. They cannot see they’re better off WITHOUT millions of dollars but they remain oblivious and swear they need money to be happy, so they keep wasting money on lottery tickets that never win. Do you see the folly here? God does not want us focused on what we don’t have, longing for things that would hurt us, or taking God and all that He’s blessed us with for granted any longer.
So for those individuals who’ve made a habit out of chasing all the wrong things, for the wrong reasons and suffering needlessly as a result, here’s a challenge: you’ve tried it your way (the same way) for years and years now and it hasn’t worked. That should tell you something. Relax! God is always in control. Don’t lead your life always following the next thing you just have to have, or concentrating on what you don’t have. You will never find contentment that way. Focus on what you DO have and be thankful for it, because most of the people on this planet have FAR less than you do.
So it’s okay to be single, it’s okay to live in an apartment, it’s okay to have an old car. Stressing until you get a significant other, a house, or a new car will be a curse to you. If you are meant to have those things not only will God see that you get them, He’ll see that you get the very best! And if you aren’t meant to have those things, find comfort in the fact that you would be worse off if you did. So seek God first above all other things. Unlike everything else He’s easy to acquire, as He’s far more important than all your other desires combined.
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Matthew 6:33